If it ain't broke....

I don't get it. If someone is upset with you for something you did wrong, and you offer to fix it and make it right and they refuse, then why are they upset in the first place? I am so confused sometimes (yeah, big surprise there!!!). I would think if someone is mad about something, their anger should be abated by the wrong-er making an effort to fixthings, but if the wrong-ee refuses to let the wrong-er fix their mistake...what's the point? Just to stay mad, to feel the buzz of righteous anger?

Here's my formula of how things should work:

Person #1 does something wrong
Person #2 expresses anger or disappointment
Person #1 offers to make amends by fixing their mistake and making things whole again
Person #2 agrees
Person #1 fixes and makes it right
Person #2 is happy again, anger is forgotten, and all go on their merry way


Unfortunately, this is how things usually work:

Person #1 does something wrong
Person #2 expresses anger or disappointment
Person #1 offers to make amends by fixing their mistake and making things whole again
Person #2 refuses to let person #1 fix what upset them in the first place, but insists on grinding them into their mistake (not letting them fix it), and then gives them the right to hold a grudge and possibly bring up this incident again at a later date to be used as ammunition.

My lesson for today - anger and arguments are a waste of energy and oxygen. Fix the wrongs and move on to happier things in life! My goal: to stay happy. Care to join me?