Who, me?

The dangerous thing about relationships is that we start to view ourselves though someone else's eyes instead of our own. Now, occasionally this is a good exercise, but if you do it constantly you really lose sight of yourself and who you are. The worst thing is if you get into the habit of always doing this, and then the person you are viewing yourself through stops 'seeing' you. Then, you really lose sight of yourself. Who are you? Are you necessary? Are you important? Do you matter? If the view of yourself you are looking at is someone else's view, and their view is of a blank spot (where you should be), then you need to get out of that spot and reassess yourself. If you don't, you start second-gussing everything, and paranoia sets in. The dangerous thing about relationships is when someone else's view of you becomes more important than your own view of yourself! When that other person stops seeing you, you disappear. That ain't good!!!